It is believed that when
a child is born, he is born with all the intelligence. The world he sees
growing up is something different from his own eyes. He is born with his own
talent, abilities and most importantly 'questions' for us. It is also said
that, "Every child is born with all
sorts of inquisitiveness in him." But the thing that makes me wonder
is, why can't we say "Every adult grows up with the same inquisitiveness
he is born with." ? Because that is not universally true. Right? O'come
on, how many of us raise the same number of questions and with the same type of
mindset like the way we used to when we were little kids? Hardly a few.
It is a bit difficult to figure out the exact reasons for a child's lost level
of inquisitiveness, but still a few are playing an important role in killing
all the innocence and intelligence by suppressing a young child's questions. It
does happen that a child who is all playful and outgoing in his childhood
becomes all timid and quiet in his teenage. Yes, hormones do play an important
role. But I'd say not every time. The environment a child is brought up in also
plays an important role. Your behaviour towards him, towards others, towards
yourself is being carefully observed by your child. In Fact, not only your own
child but even other children are getting to know about you some or the other way.
A child's questions are answered by all the parents, no doubt, in fact that how
we get to know the world, but the real question is 'are all the questions a
child raises answered?' The answers for this would be:-
1:- Obviously No. Sabhi sawalo ka
jawab thodi hota hai. Hum bhagwan toh nahi hai.
(I would say.. it is because of the questions that weren't answered in your
childhood. Because if you give such a vague answer in today's tech-driven
world, you definitely need to explore your smart phone!)
2:- Somebody might say a Yes. And
they would assure us they answer everything their child asks and in fact they
would also do some research and get back to their child with answers when they
themselves don't know about it.
(I would say...Excellent. Good going!)
See, I don't say parents don't want to answer their little child's questions,
it becomes a headache for them only when they are asked in some weird
situations. For an instance, we avoid some cliche queries of our child in
public/ in a social gathering. We try to avoid the child's questions sometimes
because we don't want to look foolish or uninformed in front of them by telling
them we don't know the answer. But we shouldn't forget that just because we
don't have an answer to the child's question doesn't mean the question doesn't
have an answer. It does but it needs to be discovered. How can we forget, when
we are all stressed out, our tiny little toddler's touch, his/her smile would
make us all fresh and energetic but if, when the same toddler grows up a little
and comes up with questions in the same situations, we might drive him away or
divert his attention. Why so? Such little things haven't even noticed by us.
But they are all being captured in the child's mind. We all grown ups need
somebody to talk with, where we can share all that we feel. Right? It is human
nature after all. A child is also in search of that 'somebody' where he can get
his answers, 'somebody' who listens, 'somebody' who is attentive towards
him/her.
It is also said, "Never let that little
child in you, die." It is true. Because every single thought,
revolution, change was brought only when a question was raised. I don't say
'Go. Be a revolutionist.' No, but don't we know change is inevitable? We change every second, every minute. New cells
are born whether old ones die. Same has to be with our thoughts too. It has
to stay updated. It has to be nourished. How long have you been suppressing
your questions on your own inside your mind just because of the fear what
others would say/think about you? Being diverted from the questions that you
raised in your childhood is not your fault, but due to fear if you let that
little child in you die then, my dear, you are at fault. "Ask yourself, What would you do if you
weren't afraid, and go do that."